Over the years, countless romantic comedies have been produced about Valentine’s Day. Usually starting with a bitter woman who has given up on love and rejects the day entirely, and ending with her madly in love and kissing the perfect guy as the credits roll.
The happily-ever-after routine may not be everyone’s destiny. So why not find the most positive way to deal with it instead of choosing to be sad, bitter and lonely on a day that is supposed to celebrate love? Love comes in so many different forms, and Valentine’s Day represents all these different relationships. So, if you have the V-day blues creeping in on you this year, just choose to focus on LOVE!
Let us mentally list the love that is surrounding us all the time, one that doesn’t come from a life partner. Granted, they don’t replace that kind of love, but nevertheless, they still add positivity, happiness and companionship, and isn’t that what love is all about at the end? Also, just because you don’t have love now doesn’t mean you won’t have it eventually, so why be sad till then?
Your life is probably filled with most of the following things, if not all. Love from your parents and siblings, love from a BFF (or a group of them), your furry BFF at home, your career that brings you joy. Of course, the highest blessings in life, the kids. If you don’t have kids, then you are also blessed to have your freedom, plenty of time to sleep, and time to love yourself. Which brings me to the next love that should be the love of your life, without sounding selfish or narcissistic: If you love yourself, everything else just falls into place. Cherish these things and use Valentine’s Day to celebrate them and rise above nitpicking all that you don’t have and just be content with what you do have.
Embrace your blessings. Remind yourself that you are living in a beautiful and safe town, you have your health, and you have a few things that make you happy. That’s a lot more than many people can say. New-age studies show that once you reach that point of contentedness and appreciation, you actually allow for more blessings to enter your life.
Don’t forget that sometimes giving love can be just as satisfying as receiving it, so this Valentine’s Day, remember that there are people who don’t have any of the things listed above and don’t have the mental or emotional power to rise above. If you are feeling down, think outwardly instead. Think of what you can give instead of what you can take. Be the person who does something kind for others in need to remind them that they are not alone in this world and that even they deserve and have some love on Valentine’s Day. Volunteer at a shelter and offer hot cocoa or take some chocolate down to pass around. Pass by an orphanage with little goodie bags for the kids who have to grow up without a mommy and daddy.
Love is in the air and all around – you just have to see it. If you can’t see it, then be it. Don’t waste a precious moment in your life obsessing about the lack of it. Rise above, and the world will rise to you.
